Tone of Your Home

God has surely answered the cry of my heart!   Since my last post, I have a renewed sense of hope.

I was especially refreshed by my time with another mom during the last “Mom Time-Out” gathering in my home. Leading up to these times of fellowship there always seems to be some discouragement that hits me like a stone and knocks me off balance a little.  But every time I get together to talk with another mom or group of moms, I always feel refreshed, and get back on track with God’s vision for mothering. When I get together with moms, I begin to see the pattern that I and many of them go through in their daily walk of trying to love their husband and their children in a fallen world.

We can really beat ourselves up and get bogged down by the world. If we don’t reach out to pray for one another and lift our whole household up in prayer too, the devil tends to get a foothold on us. But, God IS greater than our trivial problems. IF we cry out to him, especially in desperation, He WILL answer. The key is to reach out to Him.

I have also noticed that if I feel sad, mad or glad, my children and husband will be affected by it. I don’t believe women, especially moms, realize the power we have in our homes.

In my sadness and pity parties of unmet expectations, I would tear up in the midst of my daily chores and what not. So, my kids would inevitably take notice and they would begin to act up or have the same attitude as me. Do you notice that children have a keen sense of what we are feeling without us verbally letting them know? That is a gift that we as parents don’t realize they have and use it for everyone’s benefit.

Just after I cried out to God, from my pity pool, I felt lead to get out! I was drowning emotionally!! So, next I did what I knew was right to do in my heart. I applied the principle of the sower which is to reap what I sow. I began to sing a hymn  over and over until I didn’t feel like crying anymore. Do you know what happened immediately after that? My girls “caught” the tune and began singing it themselves!

This is not the first time I have done this. So, I know this is not just a coincidence. That’s when I resolved, again, to not let my pity party affect my children. I was contributing to the problem instead of being part of the solution.

Over and over again, I have repeated the same mistake and over and over again God’s Spirit keeps reminding me to not give in to my flesh (have another pity party) and “Trust Him with all my heart and lean no on my own understanding (in what I can see with my limited vision) (Proverbs 3:5-6).

This Thanksgiving I am especially grateful that He loves me enough to convict me every time so I may repent of my sin and persevere. There will always be issues in my home. The sooner I learn that and apply His principles, the better I and my family will be for it.

TODAY, I want to encourage you to set the “Tone of Your Home” with new music in your heart.

Just as a movie scene conjures feelings of happiness, sadness, danger or triumph, you can bring God’s peace and joy to a situation happening right in your home by the music you play in the background and especially from your heart, through your actions.

The key is to choose the music you play.  Choose a joyful tune today despite the circumstances.  Make the choice to cry out to God and let Him life you up above your circumstances and you will soar.  He promises to give you a better view from above.  From below, in the midst of your problems, you can only see partially, but from above, with God’s view, you will see a greater part of the picture He is revealing to those who are watching for His redemptive beauty.

Choose Life and Beauty!

In the trenches of life with you,

Socorro Gill

Open Heart Surgery…

Do you ever feel like you need a new heart?  You’re just not your “happy, cheery self” anymore? (This is supposed to be a sarcastic comment for me.)

I’m not naturally a positive person. But, more recently, even my negative outlook has gotten more negative.

When I can’t see the light of God in my life, I know that the things of this world are overshadowing the truth of God’s grace and faithfulness in my life. I tend to see things in a very bad light, instead of looking at the good things first.

Our family just returned from a much needed trip to California. The girls and I headed out 5 days before my husband joined us. For a week we were all together enjoying one another, visiting with my mom and siblings, and our first church family in Yorba Linda. It was truly a vacation! We were not doing our regular routine of school, chores and work, so everyone was pretty happy. For a good, but short week, there was harmony in our family. It was such a blessing not to have to coax my children to get out of bed for school, even though it’s at home! We didn’t have to deal with the daily grind of our busy American life (These are truly first world problems).

Then, life reality hit me hard, again! When we arrived back home, the pressures of this life began weighing down on us, in particular the children. I started noticing the grumbling and complaining under their breath and I also began to dread having to deal with that myself. It didn’t help that upon our arrival into the Newark airport, almost immediately, things that could’ve gone wrong, did!

On our way to California the usually bumpy flights were smooth. But, on the way back it was the opposite. I’ll spare you most of the details, but first, our luggage didn’t arrive with us; our car retrieval ticket was in the missing luggage; my car driver’s side window decided to not work, again, and it was raining! By God’s grace I was the only one laughing because if I cried (which I felt like doing) I wouldn’t be able to see while driving home at midnight.

The night of our arrival was very dark in many ways. Thankfully though, God’s mercies showed up again the next day and by noon our lost luggage had made it to our home, my window began working and to the girls pleasant surprise, we were still on “Fall School” break in order to give us all time to adjust to the time zone change and our previously leisurely schedule.

Since we’ve been home though, I’ve sensed the grumbly spirits haunting us. It has taken all I have, in my flesh, and God’s Spirit in me to persevere. If I relied on myself only, our home would be a place of hopelessness instead of a place of rest and reprieve from the demands of this world.

After contemplating all of the last 3 weeks I realized that I need God to do surgery on me. I feel stuck and I don’t like how I’m viewing life. I know it’s not how God would wants me to see it. I should believe what His word says, like “His mercies are new every day” and to “Trust Him with all my heart, and not lean on my own understanding”, or how I see things, because they are based on my feelings at the time, instead of His truths. BUT, I feel stuck because I can’t do this on my own.

So, it is with this understanding and the faith of a mustard seed that I am asking God to bring a new and fresh outlook on my current situation, a new heart; one that is stronger than my problems and can persevere through this season of life. I need Him to pour out His Spirit on me and our home, once again, to renew and rejuvenate it because I just don’t know what else to do. I am trusting, by faith, that He will keep His word as I have seen Him do it in the bible and in my family’s life in the past.

Are you feeling stuck today? Why don’t you try the same challenge with me? Let me know if He answers your prayers and I will surely tell you when He answers mine!

In the trenches of mothering with you,

Socorro Gill

A Firm Place to Stand

After my last post, I want to tell you how much I am grateful to God
for hearing the cry of my heart. The best way I can put it is to share with you a favorite Psalm of mine that lifts my spirit every time I feel down. If you are feeling down today, read this uplifting Word of the Lord and be blessed.
I will be telling you more about a recent trip to California in the next few days. But, for now, rejoice in the Lord!

(Quoted from, NIV)

For the director of music. Of David. A psalm.

1 I waited patiently for the Lord;
he turned to me and heard my cry.
2 He lifted me out of the slimy pit,
out of the mud and mire;
he set my feet on a rock
and gave me a firm place to stand.
3 He put a new song in my mouth,
a hymn of praise to our God.
Many will see and fear the Lord
and put their trust in him.

4 Blessed is the one
who trusts in the Lord,
who does not look to the proud,
to those who turn aside to false gods.[b]
5 Many, Lord my God,
are the wonders you have done,
the things you planned for us.
None can compare with you;
were I to speak and tell of your deeds,
they would be too many to declare.

6 Sacrifice and offering you did not desire—
but my ears you have opened[c]—
burnt offerings and sin offerings[d] you did not require.
7 Then I said, “Here I am, I have come—
it is written about me in the scroll.[e]
8 I desire to do your will, my God;
your law is within my heart.”

9 I proclaim your saving acts in the great assembly;
I do not seal my lips, Lord,
as you know.
10 I do not hide your righteousness in my heart;
I speak of your faithfulness and your saving help.
I do not conceal your love and your faithfulness
from the great assembly.

11 Do not withhold your mercy from me, Lord;
may your love and faithfulness always protect me.
12 For troubles without number surround me;
my sins have overtaken me, and I cannot see.
They are more than the hairs of my head,
and my heart fails within me.
13 Be pleased to save me, Lord;
come quickly, Lord, to help me.

14 May all who want to take my life
be put to shame and confusion;
may all who desire my ruin
be turned back in disgrace.
15 May those who say to me, “Aha! Aha!”
be appalled at their own shame.
16 But may all who seek you
rejoice and be glad in you;
may those who long for your saving help always say,
“The Lord is great!”

17 But as for me, I am poor and needy;
may the Lord think of me.
You are my help and my deliverer;
you are my God, do not delay.

May God Bless you and keep you until next time!
Saved by Grace,
Socorro Gill